About this quiz
People don't search this after one selfish weekend. They search it after a pattern: you're always the problem, they're always the exception, and you leave the conversation smaller than you walked in. This is not a diagnosis of narcissistic personality disorder. It's twenty questions about partner behavior — husband, boyfriend, the person you're with. Each answer runs from never to very often. We turn that into a score out of 100 for how much of this pattern you marked. Something to sit with. And if secrecy is part of what you're seeing, a private way to check if they're cheating.
How this score works (and what it is not)
Each answer adds points from never (0) to very often (4). We turn the total into a number out of 100 so you can see how much of this pattern you marked. A higher score means more of these behaviors showed up in your answers. That's it. It is not a diagnosis. Narcissistic personality disorder is a clinical condition. Only a qualified professional can assess that. Insecure people, stressed people, and people in a bad season can look like some of these items too. What the score is good for is naming a pattern you can point at — instead of arguing about a word.
When the pattern includes secrecy
A lot of people who search this are also carrying a quieter question: is there someone else. Charm in public and coldness at home can sit next to hidden accounts, late nights, or a profile that never came down. You don't have to diagnose them, and you don't have to confront them, to get that piece clearer. You can check if they're cheating with a private search of public dating profiles. It shows you whether someone has an active profile, or quietly rules it out.
Frequently asked questions
- Does this quiz diagnose NPD?
- No. It scores how often certain partner behaviors show up in your answers. It does not diagnose narcissistic personality disorder.
- What's the difference between narcissism and insecurity?
- Insecurity can look loud, needy, or defensive. The pattern this quiz asks about is more about admiration, empathy, entitlement, and whether you leave conversations feeling smaller. Overlap exists. That's one reason a quiz is not a diagnosis.
- Does a high score mean they're cheating?
- No. This pattern and cheating can overlap, and they can exist separately. If secrecy is part of what you're seeing, you can check if they're cheating from the button on your result screen. Signs are not proof.
- Is the quiz private?
- Yes. No sign-up, no email gate. Your score shows up on the page, and your answers stay in your browser.